The subject of trust is on everyone’s lips.
We all know how important trust is, but are often unwilling to do anything to build trust.
Often one speaks only about trust, if it suffers or is destroyed.
It makes sense to deal in good times with the systematic construction or recovery of trust.
Because trust is a fundamental pillar for our private and professional success.
It is said again and again, we must trust each other …
Dr. Bernd Slaghuis, Systemic Coach and Economist, writes in his blog article “Trust is a Real Gift (Vertrauen ist ein echtes Geschenk)”:
“Giving confidence only works if it is valued as a real gift on the other side, trust not as an empty phrase or even as a threat, but as a serious appreciation. As a leader or a colleague, make a conscious choice as to whether the person you wish to place your trust in actually perceives it as a gift, wishes to accept it, and appreciates it. ” Dr. Slaghuis continues, “Gifts are an expression of appreciation.” He then advises: “Give away trust consciously and be aware of the associated duties and consequences of this gift, …”.
I found this article exciting and would like to comment on the following:
Should we see trust as gift?
Trust is definitely valuable and we should not leave it without attention … no question!
However, I am disturbed by the view of Dr. Ing. Slaghuis.
Why should we value trust as a gift?
Should I pay extra for it when someone puts their trust in me?
Because then I make myself small and humiliate myself.
Everybody deserves a certain amount of respect and respect, which does not mean that one should “indulge” each and everyone with confidence.
It is true that gifts are generally an expression of appreciation, but it remains to be seen whether we should see trust as a gift.
Trust sometimes needs spontaneity
Seen the other way round: If we give trust as a gift, then the thought process is behind:”But now I have to think carefully about whether that makes sense and whether that person deserves it!”.
Why not spontaneously (without ulterior motive and without thinking too much) give trust to a person whom we spontaneously like?
That’s exactly what makes trust … spontaneous action … that the other person gets the feeling: “Oh, how nice, this person does not test me for hours, if I’m really worth it ..”
Spontaneity and being open to others, that’s much nicer …
I experience this again and again in other cultures (we travel a lot .. because you also learn a lot about trust) … this openness and spontaneity, that’s where we Germans still have to learn something …
In other cultures trust is usually not tested for hours, if you deserve confidence .. you just give it and are open.
I like this saying:
The greatest honor one can do to a person is that one has faith in him. – Matthias Claudius
I would then modify it like this:
The greatest honor that you can do to a person is to be trusted spontaneously. – Karin Sebelin
Trust does not always have something to do with being conscious
Dr. Slaghuis says: “Give away your trust consciously and be aware of the duties and consequences of this gift …”
I believe, you do not always have to “become aware” of why you’re doing something …
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